Category Archives: Thoughtful Thursday

Thoughtful Thursday: Femslash Fallacies.

So, my post, “…but aren’t you a lesbian?” inspired Fright Dyke to rant at me that lesbians are not more socially acceptable than gay men. That both are looked down on (she said despised) and that it pisses her off when people say “the gays have it easier.”

I was confused, becuase that’s not what I meant to write. Then I realized that the way I had written the post was unclear and actually did say what she was ranting against, even though that’s not really what I meant.

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Thoughtful Thursday: The Great Incest Debate

So, as I mentioned yesterday, I’ve had two funerals to go to in the past week. The one yesterday was for the mother of a dear friend, who’s in my thoughts during this difficult time. (We love you, honey!)

The service on Monday was for my grandmother. She was 89, lived a good life, and went quickly. She will be missed, but remembered fondly by all who knew her.

Needless to say, I’m feeling a little fried today. So, instead of writing a mini-essay about femslash, lesbianism, and feminism (i’ll do that next week) I’m going to tell a story. About the wake. Trust me, it’s totally relevant.

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Thoughtful Thursday: …but aren’t you a lesbian?

Hello and welcome to another Thoughtful Thursday.

I love the way that sounds like I’m a host on an 70’s style talk show. Though, I guess because of the variety of the posts, it’s more like a variety show. (Insert Cher joke here).

If you read my review of X-Men first class, you will recall Fright Dyke telling me that two men can love each other very much and not have sex. And you may remember my response that “my way is more fun.” There are several reasons for why I’m so fascination (*cough*obsessed*cough*) with boylove, and I will discuss as many as I can while answering the basic question: “But…aren’t you a lesbian?”

The simple answer is that it’s not about gender or sexual preference. It’s about subverting expectations and defying ridiculous social taboos.

And Porn. But I’ll get into that.

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